30 Be Good to Yourself Therapy

I read these from a book that i have been neglecting to read for years. And when it finally dawned on me that it's time for me to grab it, here's what I got and will share with you.


1. Trust yourself. You know what you want and need.

2. Put yourself first. You can't be anything for anybody else unless you take care of yourself.

3. Let your feelings be known. They are important.

4. Express your opinions, it's good to hear yourself talk.

5. Value your thinking, you do it well.

6. Take the time and space you need - even if other people are wanting something from you.

7. When you need something, don't talk yourself out of it. Even if you can't have it, it's okey to need.

8. When you're scared, let someone know. Isolating yourself when you're scared makes it worse.

9. When you feel like running away, let yourself feel the scare. Think about what you fear will happen, and decide what you need to do.

10. When you're angry, let yourself feel the anger. Decide what you want to do; just feel it, express it, or take some action.

11. When you're sad, think about what is comforting.

12. When you're hurt, tell the person who hurt you. Keeping it inside makes it grow.

13. When you see someone else's hurt face, breathe. You are not responsible for making other people happy, but you can cheer him up.

14. When you have work to do and don't want to do it. decide what really needs to be done and what can wait.

15. When you want something from someone else, ask. You'll be okey when they say NO. Asking is being true to yourself.

16. When you need help, ask. Trust people to say no if they don't want to give.

17. When people turn you down, it usually has to do with them and not with you. Ask someone else for what you need.

18. When you feel alone, know there are people who want to be with you. Fantasize what it would be like to be with each of them. Decide if you want to make that happen.

19. When you want to say something loving to someone, go ahead. Expressing your feelings is not a commitment.

20. When someone yells at you, breathe. Think about the message they are trying to get across to you. If you think about it, you will need some realization.

21. When you can't thin straight. Stop thinking. Feel.

22. When you feel harried, slow down. Deliberately slow your breathing, your speech and your movements.

23. Whenyou have tears, cry.

24. When everything seems gray, look for color.

25. When you feel like a baby, take care of the baby in you.

26. When someone gives you a gift, say "thank you". That's all you need to do.

27. When someone loves you, just accept and be glad. Love is not an obligation. You do not have to do anything in return.

28. Write down your thoughts. It helps to think about it when it is written.

29. Smile always, that is not only a gift to others but for yourself as well.

30. Acknowledge that there is a God who takes care of you, so you have to be good to yourself.

It's only 30 steps, but it sure makes a difference.
Take care everyone!

Love,

sHenG