My First Attendance to a Muslim Wedding
When I got invited to my first Muslim wedding, I got so excited because 1. I have never been to one yet; 2. I know it will be an eye-opener for me as regards to Muslim rites, and 3. I am open to learning different cultures and traditions.
According to my short research on this matter, Muslim marriages are carried out in different ways as to the culture they are accustomed to. In the Philippines, Muslim marriages are arranged by the parents and relatives with the bride and groom.
To Muslims, their women cannot marry outside of their faith. Muslim men however, can do so as long as their children are raised as Muslims. After acceptance of the offer of marriage, the groom must give the bride a "mhar" (gift or dowry). From what I learned in the Muslim wedding I attended, the groom gave cash and gold and the things the bride wishes.
Studying Shariah law before, i have learned that in Islam, it is considered a religious duty and social necessity to marry. The ceremony must be witnessed by people but only 2 to make it official. There is no marriage license in the Muslim wedding. A “Nikah” has to be signed which gives proof to the marriage and filled up by the Imam, the Muslim priest.
The Muslim wedding I attended to was set in a restaurant, a venue where according to the Muslims is allowable. A mosque can be the preferred venue but not always, like some Christians do.
The Muslim bride wore sparkling, bright white gown with diamond studs sewn on her long sleeved gown. A very intricate and grand presentation of their culture, the bride is beautiful on her special day. The groom, I was surprised to see, was not into a Muslim attire but wore a western-style suit.
Mina, Beautiful Bride
From time to time, I look at the guests and noticed that the women wore their traditional Muslim attires, while the men do not. I was searching my eyes and imagined myself being in India or in Malaysia. My first time to a Muslim wedding made me realize I am a true-blood Mindanaoan, even if I am a Christian.
The Muslim Wedding Rite
- The marriage ceremony is called the Nikah. The bride and groom are separated. The bride was locked in one corner covered with a small cubicle-like tent, where she is kept from her groom.
- The audience listens to a marriage sermon given by the imam to solemnize the wedding. A recitation of the Qur’an was made. No misalettes for them, not even a service sheet but they all seem to know their part as the wedding was well coordinated as it went through different phases.
- The husband was first wed to the father of the bride, a sign of assurance that he will take care of the daughter and her bride. After a few closing words, they are united together with a white handkerchief to close the nikah. After the nikah, they parade towards the area where the bride is carefully locked and the groom must look after signs of where the bride is located inside the tent where she is kept.
- A handkerchief is swayed under the tent to which the groom must get with agility. This signals that the groom is already successful in getting her bride and that they are officially married. A “walima”, or a reception party follows the ceremony.
- According to my office mate who invited me to the wedding, the bride and groom spend the first three nights of their married life separately. After the three nights, the bride’s father will escort them to their new home and fully give the brides’ hand to her husband.
I was really glad I was able to attend this Muslim wedding, my first time proved a worthy one as I was able to learn many things in the Muslim culture. Have you attended a different wedding rite? Care to share?
Comments
in fairness ha, naka suit si groom! :)
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parang i want to read up on this rite din tuloy and then be able to witness it too! na-curious talaga ako. gusto ko din ma-experience mga nakita mo ng traditional weddings, sheng! *major major inggit* hehe...
pero natandaan ko isang linggo muna na naghanda sa ginawang tent at imbitado dun ang mga kakilala nila...bago ang takdang araw ng kasal.
it's nice that youve shared this side of islam.
Thank you for sharing...sheng:)
nowadays...muslim wedding especially in the family is held in event centers..but traditional muslim decors like likos and umbrellas..etc are still present. muslim decors are incorporated to wedding theme of their choice.
my youngest brother is getting married on the 4th next month..id be glad to share some snapshots of the event here soon.
ill tell rhea...the bride here bout this article..thank you all.. God bless
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I am very grateful you did share your knowledge here. It is an exuberant post
Thank you so much for providing such a useful content.
MubarakRishte Matrimonial Consultants... Think Marriage - Think MubarakRishte!
Hyderabad's Top Most Muslim Matrimonial Consultant. We are famous for make-happen Matches in Hyderabad, and Hyderabadi's settled in Gulf and Abroad in most aligned and dignified manner.
You have son/daughter with the age of Marriage?
you are confused in making the most prestigious decision of choosing a life-partner?
Connect with MubarakRishte, and leave your worries behind ! Rishta Aapka, Koshish Hamari...!
Contact : +91-8977 700 900, 8885 400 900
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