The Theory of Familiarity
My judge/professor in Criminal Law once shared to us about the Theory of Familiarity. He said we all have favorites, and we make them our favorites because we are familiar with their characteristics.
You are familiar with your own book because it is the same book you always bring to school, open and read, and it is the same book that gives you the sense of ownership because it is yours. Now, in case you left your book at home and you need to read portions of it, your mind will wander and wonder where your book could be, and it usually feels awkward reading portions of the book that is not yours.
It is usually awkward and different when you try to borrow and use things. It gives you a different uncomfortable feeling. You always feel relaxed when you have your own things with you.
This is true with moving into a new house. In our present shelter, i have been living here for more than 8 years already and it always gives me that familiar feeling of HOME. Even my kids know every corner of our house, and it gives them a warm feeling of security.
Last Saturday, I gathered up my courage and was able to talk with Hubby's mom, and was able to open the plan of moving in to the new house this April or May. She was actually agreeable with the idea (she doesn't have a choice though), and added that we better have the house blessed before we move in. I said i was not in a hurry for moving in but come June, we'd like to settle comfortably there, so we still have two months to add up whatever is lacking in the house.
The theory came back to me. The feel of the house, the corners of it, the holes and weak spots in it I already know. I feel sad because the all too familiar feeling won't be the same when we move in to our own house. It will actually mean a lot of adjusting, especially for the kids. But I know too, that sooner, as we grow and bond with each other in our own house, everything will come and we shall all be familiar with the new house.
The sadness in me gripped my heart knowing that soon, when we leave our elderlies, they will also miss the familiar shouts of the kids, the familiar sound of our footsteps, and the familiar smell of my cooking. It is heartbreaking I know, but time will heal it, and for sure I know, the whole family is proud of us, knowing we have stood our tests and survived, and we have our new house, a product of our drained brains and sleepy nights.
This is gonna be the best thing we will do this year, and I pray to God things will be alright.
You are familiar with your own book because it is the same book you always bring to school, open and read, and it is the same book that gives you the sense of ownership because it is yours. Now, in case you left your book at home and you need to read portions of it, your mind will wander and wonder where your book could be, and it usually feels awkward reading portions of the book that is not yours.
It is usually awkward and different when you try to borrow and use things. It gives you a different uncomfortable feeling. You always feel relaxed when you have your own things with you.
This is true with moving into a new house. In our present shelter, i have been living here for more than 8 years already and it always gives me that familiar feeling of HOME. Even my kids know every corner of our house, and it gives them a warm feeling of security.
Last Saturday, I gathered up my courage and was able to talk with Hubby's mom, and was able to open the plan of moving in to the new house this April or May. She was actually agreeable with the idea (she doesn't have a choice though), and added that we better have the house blessed before we move in. I said i was not in a hurry for moving in but come June, we'd like to settle comfortably there, so we still have two months to add up whatever is lacking in the house.
The theory came back to me. The feel of the house, the corners of it, the holes and weak spots in it I already know. I feel sad because the all too familiar feeling won't be the same when we move in to our own house. It will actually mean a lot of adjusting, especially for the kids. But I know too, that sooner, as we grow and bond with each other in our own house, everything will come and we shall all be familiar with the new house.
The sadness in me gripped my heart knowing that soon, when we leave our elderlies, they will also miss the familiar shouts of the kids, the familiar sound of our footsteps, and the familiar smell of my cooking. It is heartbreaking I know, but time will heal it, and for sure I know, the whole family is proud of us, knowing we have stood our tests and survived, and we have our new house, a product of our drained brains and sleepy nights.
This is gonna be the best thing we will do this year, and I pray to God things will be alright.
sHenG
Comments
don't worry, you will also become familiar with your new home as you make new memories in it. :)
have a great week sheng!
Happy Moving day, sheng! : )
hopefully we can transfer to our new home before the holy week. so, medyo mauna lang kami ng konti sa inyo.
just make sure the kids see their grandparents often :)
have you found THE house yet?
sana malapit lang yan para sa house blessings. tradisyon na kasi natin mga pinoy na may gift sa mga bagong lipat. ihanda na ang bigas, kandila, coins, bagwa at kung ano ano pa hehehe. kidding aside, i also believe na house blessing is enough to make the home a home of GOD also.
good luck!!!
i want pictures!!!
your teacher, is it Judge Noel?
and it's actually fun to decorate a new house... :)
It is a wise decision of having a home of your own while you're still young because our elderlies won't be there forever to guide and assist us personally.
Just enjoy the moment you are with them and definitely enjoy the moment that you're on your own too.
Good luck!
so kelan ang housewarming? hehe ;)
adjustments will definitely be felt but make sure to make the kids room exciting for them to transfer.
oo nga, kelan ang housewarming?